The Principle of Identity and consciousness being separate from my physiology, is a leading factor in my stories of identity. I no longer fix my physical and mental challenges and symptoms to my being and who I am.
I am not my experiences. This principle shapes my attitude towards myself and how I feel about myself. When I listen to societies opinions of who’s pretty, fit, accepted and admired, I put myself into a box.
When I say that my being or presence, (consciousness) is not subject to my physiology, I am choosing to be free on multi-levels. It is freeing from all the projections and lies others told me about myself and I no longer now care about their misconceptions and judgments. They have problems of their own and are not aware of how immoral it is to pronounce me as not being the “better child” or “golden child”.
I am an adult who chooses to live as I wish, independent of my issues. I don’t let them define me so that they hold me back from living the life of significance and meaning that I want. This life is always pursuing joyful and creative fun and I won’t suppress or surrender this freedom on the alter of others insecurities and mindsets (how they see the world and their place within it).
It doesn’t serve me to absorb others opinions as if mine aren’t relevant. If I make my life subject and limited by their pronouncements, I am not experiencing joy. I want more in life and before the year of hospitals, I was trying to move through my life, like the way the others said I should do it. They labelled me as sick and wanted me to follow lists of how to get better, even putting the lists on my door to remind me I’m sick when I left the house.
Their standards and methodology wasn’t working for me, I felt I wasn’t “being me.” The way their wanted me to live my life wasn’t fun, I was bored, and I became indifferent to my life experiences and chose to disengage with life, ending up in the hospitals. In the hospitals, they did not label me of being incapable, less than and they challenged me to be my best according to who I was inside, not by others descriptions.
I stopped engaging in the theory that my past defined who I was and my presence in the now. I no longer was captive to the medical industries proclamations. I took that list off my outer door and replaced it with a picture of me with a big smile. That’s who I am, not some empty shell of their making.
I pursue no longer being trapped within the confines of other’s labels, or even my own ego. I am no longer on automatic pilot or a habit of a mental fog. Prior to 2 years ago, I was confused, my body didn’t work. I couldn’t cook, clean, walk, wash, or navigate around. I couldn’t eat because of stomach issues. I got my medication confused, and I wasn’t rational and able to reason and make solid decisions in my favour. The hospital setting helped to give me the space to confront my situation and examine it, and after I left, I changed surrendering my will and freedom to others, and took back my autonomy and rights to live my life on my terms.
Being separated from nay-sayers, I was able to come to the realization that I am not defined by my experiences. I am not my experiences, unless I choose to identify with them and attach to my stories of woe.
Today, I am pioneering into an unknown future but making my choices congruent with who I am (my consciousness) and am making decisions congruent with what I want in life.
I do not make my health part of my identity. I no longer allow my circumstances to define me nor my identity. I make a series of conscious choices which create momentum in my life. I honour myself. I am, and I am magnificent.
Greg says… We Have Experiences, They Are Not Who We Are
We are not what we experience. Our being (consciousness) is separate and apart from our physiology. Our experiences do not define us, unless, we make it so.
I repeat, we have experiences, we are not the experience itself and we are not defined by them.
I am not suggesting that our experiences do not shape us or affect our lives. I am saying an experience is simply that — an experience — unless we choose to identify and attach to it.
We humans are a unique species. We can choose to think or not think. We can choose to disassociate, avoid, deny and detach ourselves from any experience. Unfortunately, this only prolongs our suffering. Or we can choose instead to not “identify” with any particular experience. When we do that, in that moment, we free ourselves and return to our core being, our conscious awareness.
The magic occurs when we assign no meaning or value to an experience, it simply becomes a phenomenon that we observe. The phenomena is like a breeze gently pushing against our awareness. We are aware of the breeze but do not decide that we “are” the breeze — that would be absurd. It follows then that if we choose to label the breeze as “bad“, cold, warm, uncomfortable — it is in that moment that we create meaning and assign value to it.
On the other hand, should we choose to assign no qualities or meaning to the breeze we are free to observe and to choose.
Otherwise, we will tend to label, attach and/or create an identity around the experience itself. Here is the uncomfortable truth, we could also choose to not identify with the experience itself, and simply be the observer. Which instantly frees us from the drama, labeling, judgement and meaning we might be tempted to assign to it.
We would propose then, that every/any experience, contains the potential for an opportunity to attach meaning, value, significance to the experience or **not**.
It is in these moments when we “attach“ and the assignment of meaning that we become “the experience“ and it is in that moment when it becomes a part of our identity.
Then it sits silently beneath our conscious awareness, in our subconscious, and we enter into the fog of auto pilot. This is when we become subject to our automatic primal, animalistic reactions and unconscious automatic responses.
We propose that if we can create an “identity“ out of an experience — we can also choose to not-identify or unhook ourselves from the meaning (drama and emotions) we assigned to that experience.
When this occurs we literally reshape, redefine and reclaim our identity. In our experience, when we learn to be the observer, it is the beginning of a transformation. We move away from being owned and controlled by our experiences, emotions and behaviours. Instead we learn to choose to first observe, then decide after reflecting, how we wish to respond.
In our “Mastering the Art of Momentum” program we provide a specific training, mindset development and skill acquisition we call the “Transformation Matrix”. It is a reflective process you can use to coach yourself through the thinking and emotional obstacles that tend to keep you stuck, and prevent forward movement.
You will learn how to design your own tangible path forward – so you can fully inhabit your life. You will experience the four phases of transformation which are practical, applicable, scientific and lead to personal congruency, authenticity and help you tap into your personal power.